Obstacles of changing – sticking to the envisioned outcome or longing for perfection

Post written by Orsolya Hernold

When I set out to change something in my life or do something new–like losing weight by jogging–I usually have a vision of myself at the end of my quest. This case I could see myself having the perfect body as if I was on a magazine cover. Although envisioning the outcome or your goal can also help to boost your motivation to move toward it, it can also hinder you in two ways: first, you are too attached to your image that any other outcome counts as a failure. Second, you can lose important learning points of the journey because you are so fixed on the end.

The envisioned outcome is many times an ideal or a perfect realization. I am sure I will never have a perfect body of a model posing on a magazine cover, but I can’t help it, this image is still in my head. And there were times I almost gave up on my jogging. Because it wasn’t happening, my body just didn’t want to turn into the perfect shape. I was chasing a goal I couldn’t possible reach and that almost stopped me doing my exercise. And since I was so fixed on perfection, I didn’t notice that jogging gave me energy throughout the day, a good condition and started to shape my body. When I realized that I’m giving up, I shifted my goals: now I jog because I enjoy the energy I get from jogging, enjoy being the catcher without panting and accept and rejoice over the small changes in my body.

I’m launching the START JOURNALING course January 10th. If you are considering participating in it, check with the following questions whether your goals with the course and your envisioned outcome is helping you or not.

I know, it’s quite difficult to differentiate between having too little ambition and aiming too high. This is your learning about yourself–did you push yourself hard enough but not too hard in reaching your goal? When does contentment equal passivity in your life? How can you capture these moments and use them in the next goal-setting cycle?


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