Just change one thing and your life changes

Post written by Orsolya Hernold

If you are committed to changing your life, would you know where to start?

These are the times for changing your life – there are truck loads of books, websites, blogs about change, empowerment, self-development. You can find Eastern teachings, spiritualism, management tips, minimalism and environmentalism, you name it.

I am no exception myself, I have attended classes, I have read many blogs and books about self-development, currently I follow zenhabits of Leo Babauta, a blog that inspired me to write myself (and I am grateful to him for the theme of my website, too). I have learned intellectually a great deal, but real change only happened when it was grounded in my experiences of my every day routine. So what did I do many times over and over? Follow a suggestion to change something in my life, I tried it out, more than once, and then wrote down the experiences. My experiences taught me whether I am able, or willing to make the change or not.

An example: I had difficulties with a person I was working with. I wanted to change our relationship, namely I wanted to be able to accept him more and stop my negative emotions towards him. For some time, I started to write every day 10 positive attributes, accomplishments or competences of this person. I committed myself for this exercise, so I needed to sharpen my attention for his positive side. This changed my attitude towards him. We never became close, but my negative emotions that triggered my will to change stopped.

So go ahead and read books and attend courses of self-development, but involve yourself and ground the information in your life – otherwise it remains information without the transformative power.

If you want to change your life and want to keep it simple, not having the time to read all the books about how to be a better person or attend all the courses offered – then change one thing: start writing about yourself. Choose a focus, a question, a theme. Write only one sentence a day. A couple days later reread the sentence. And see what happens. You change.


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